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No Sex For You!!

Sike!!
Thats damn near impossible for me. Still, for some strange reason, there are people that actually think just because you're a mother of 3 or more, you avoid sex like the plague, eat birth control like popcorn or have a sex life that barely exists

Once there are 3 or more children I've noticed (single) parents have a few things going on. There are those that have an Adult Toy Box and/or Pornhub pops up automatically in their browser at the most inconvenient, awkward times.
Some only look forward to sex on birthdays, certain holidays and anniversaries. That's great but that also involves a whole lot of praying that ALL of the children stay healthy and dont do anything stupid in the days leading up to the big chance for some sexy time.
Then there are those that attempt get it in but the struggle is real to not fall asleep during foreplay or hoping not be interrupted by one of the results of sex because one of you is a bit loud.

Most of that is remedied by keeping a semi tight schedule. That's where the real work is and sex is a great motivator, especially if your partner is well...Talented.
A bit of my pride comes from the discipline of my household. I sometimes brag that my children have been going to bed at 8:30 since they were 6 months. They are 11, 8 and Joy is almost 9 months now, aside from the baby development milestones, for the most part she keeps the same schedule as my 2 older children. There's some deviation as they grow older and certain nights are for family time but 97.3% of the time, dinner is at 7 and bedtime is about 9:30. About 2 or 3 nights a week by 10pm I'm the only one up and I'm probably out on a date or "being grown"...Uninterrupted. When I started having children I was determined not to lose myself or my sex drive while raising them. Children can be exhausting and time consuming but there must be balance.
So many good things come from getting it in on the regular that adds to being a great (single) parent. The last thing any parent needs to be is sick, especially a Mommy, or the whole world damn near comes to a halt. Great sex once or twice a week triggers the antibodies to give the immune system a boost and counts as exercise. The next time your partner has an orgasm tell him you just reduced his risk of having heart attack. Lastly and arguably most importantly, great sex equals good sleep and good sleep means looking younger longer. I'm such a grump when I haven't "Slept Properly" and it shows... I'm the type to curse people out because they blinked wrong.
People are surprised I Still actually have a life. *GASP*
Even more surprised I have a sex life.
*GASP Again! *Shut! Up!*
I always end up wondering why they don't and when's the last time you had a "tune up"?  Then they look at me crazy...How!? Darling, I just have a schedule and a partner that has it memorized.
I love my children but to keep my sanity, I will somewhat sacrifice the spontaneity but it certainly inspires creativity. Thats my advice to anyone...keeping a sexy schedule is not impossible, for every child it just takes a little more work and dedication.
Of course, this might not work for everyone, there might be too many variables for some and sex drives vary but it's worth a try.
Find some time to be grown soon.

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