The Trinity of Trina

As far as my children are concerned, I Am God.  I know all, I see all, I provide everything, I am always with them, if I speak it gets done and they will never understand how much I love them. That's all any child really understands before anything else. So t his kind of thinking has served us well because it's motivation to always be at our best, not just for ourselves but for each other as well. If you ask my children who is God? They will answer one of two ways, sometimes both: themselves and love. It has allowed them to be awesome. They have their moments but its about time for all that awesome to really come out and possibly be tested and this year because m y daughter, Divine, started 6th grade.  At first, I was trying to figure out where the time went but the day we walked through her schedule, it really hit me that she had grown up. Sixth grade is when a parent officially has to trust everything you have taught a child to this point. I thought I was going to flip out...

Clap For Your Damn Self!! That's the lesson every child should be taught as soon as they're big enough to do so. Yep...My youngest is 7 months and she be clappin'!! It builds confidence and strength when it comes to dealing with other people. My son got in the car chanting his name Moana style and so the appropriate response is "You're So Awesome!" I was completely excited just because he was so excited. We chanted together twice before I said OK WHY!? Laughing, he told me he earned Super Star Student Of The Week!!! Now I got loud for real "GO YOU! GO YOU! AAAAHH!! YOU'RE SO AWESOME!!" Wait! Okay Why!? His teacher and classmates felt that he was the most responsible student in class and for that he is a star. At that point my Mommy thoughts went left...I wish he was that damn responsible about cleaning his room and doing chores!! But of course, I smiled big and said "That's Great Baby!" He was given a bumper sticker and we put ...

Oh Joy... My new, slightly changed, theme song the last few days has been Stay Woke By Childish Gambino. I've been sleepily singing "I STAY WOKE!! ...Cuz the baby's teethin'...She won't close her eyes..." I have been mean, off beat and off schedule the last week being up every hour or 2 at night. I've definitely had it with being awake at 4am!! We were doing SO GOOD with sleeping 6-7hrs!! The usual simple remedies don't work on my youngest, just as they did not work on my son, I don't know why I even tried. She needs a Designer TKO as well.  The difference now is have 2 big kids that don't need to be distracted and disturbed sometimes. Everyone needs some peace, s o I bought some chamomile tea and lots of fruit with a bit of an evil laugh. She won't know what hit her! In the last 2-3 days, I halved and portioned grapes and strawberries and froze them. Bedtime routine starts about 8pm until 9:30pm. After Joy ate, I gave her a warm ...

People love to use fun words once you have more than 3 children don't they? Like Bebe's Kids!  If they're not that bad they aren't just children, now they are a team, a troop, the crew even a tribe and if you're cool but really proud of them we say  SQUAD! But no one ever uses the word Trinity without saying Holy first, it's just not commonly done. As awesome as that is we will leave that realm for later. My Squad, my Trinity are my children. I used to say I want 4 children but in my research I have come to understand and accept that 3 has long been considered the number of completion. I had all 3 of my children completely natural, minimal drugs. It took my third child to finally decide, I'm Done!  When a woman gives birth she is quite literally a divine intervention. We are uniquely able to access the physical and spirit realm at the same time to navigate a soul into being. What's your super power? I have done it 3 times and by definition a Trinity ...

TRINA IS CRAZY!! This shall forever be my epitaph for this particular human experience. Whether it has been for a few hours, a few months or a few decades, it has been the accurate and most common way to describe the good, bad and ugly way in which I deal with this thing called life so far. Especially, once you add to it that I am a Single Mom of 3 beautiful children, they're 11, 8 and 7 months, I must be crazy!  This is the part where most people bring the conversation to a screeching halt or they try to carry on but their face is twisting with questions until finally they come out with the 2 most common questions:  1. Are You Crazy? Yes, I am. That's why I always lead with it because that's half the fun of being me. In this day and age, having more than 2 children and being single is sometimes seen as a fit of insanity, a cry for help...a one way ticket to hell because you will never get your life back.  2. How Do You Do It!? Always in 3's. Apparently, the univer...